In many densely populated places public transportation makes more sense than individual cars, but in America driving to work in one's car is the norm. My wife or I would drive our baby to a nanny and then go to work. Another parent would drive the second kid to a private preschool and then go to work.
Using a nanny makes perfect sense. Since we come from Russia, it makes sense for us to get Russian speaking nannies. We pick nannies very carefully - it is very important that they love kids, are conscientious, make sure our kid is safe all the time and that they are generally successful people. Generally, we have been very lucky with our nannies. They loved our kids and the kids were safe and happy with them. A nanny would feed the baby, change the diapers, take long walks, go to the playground, speak to him, read books, sing songs, recite poetry, teach speaking and many more things. Human children are quite helpless. If left without attention, they can easily get in trouble. The worst ones are cars and falling from heights. There are many other dangers too. The kids can be left to themselves starting from the age of about 12. Small girls typically are much more rational than boys. Some humans are very conservative in what they do. Those kids can be left alone quite safely. They would not do anything new, so they would unlikely get in trouble. Other humans are explorers. Kids of explorer type learn survival by trying everything. I certainly belong to the explorer type. I am very cautious but I am still driven by the idea to find new ways and show them to others. This book certainly is an exploration in an area previously untouched. This very realization fills me with great excitement.
Why are our kids so helpless? It has to do with brain development. The brain keeps growing for about 16 years. As it grows, its function is imperfect. Originally its neurons are connected too much. As the brain matures, some of the neuronal connections shrink, so only the ones which are constantly excited survive. This is why it is very important to expose a child to a variety of experiences. Things that are learned at a young age imprint on the rest of life. Humans are very programmable, especially at a young age. This is why the education of the youth is extremely important. I noticed that the schools are not adverse to the idea of aliens. Children draw aliens, discuss space and rockets. Some animations make children familiar with the idea of aliens. More needs to be done in this direction. The children, who are in schools now, will be the very people to make the earth accepted into the galactic community, they will go to the outer worlds.
Bashar correctly noted that much of our mental fragmentation roots from childhood traumas. We come to this world ready to be loved, but parents send us strong conflicting messages: on one hand, we are loved, on another, we are punished and this punishing is what causes the trauma and fragmentation. Our parents punished us because they were taught this way by their parents. I punish my kids mostly because of safety concerns. For example, they have to behave safely with cars and electricity. But whatever my motives are they feel the lack of love and acceptance. This is traumatic, no question. So, how to make their mind more whole, how to avoid fragmentation? This is a big question for all of us. We are evolving and I often realize that my main function is to forgive and to transform my negative experiences from the past into good via forgiveness. Love is the answer.
Chapter 4